Swinging is a lifestyle with a great many ways to practise it. Over time, alongside classic partner swapping, other ways of being a swinger have been added. The practices have evolved, and the idea of swinging now covers both traditional full partner swapping and simple voyeurism. A swingers club is the place where you can find every type of swinging and the people who practise it. When you decide to start a swinging life, it is very important to know exactly what it can offer you, so you can discover what suits you best. Below you will find some commonly practised types of swinging, so you can choose what best fits the life you want.
Soft swap vs full swap
Soft swap
Found in swinging between two or more couples, soft swapping covers the whole range of sexual activities (sometimes even oral sex) except actual penetration. Soft swap is not a stepping stone: for many couples it is exactly what they want to improve their sex life as a couple.
Full swap
Full swap (complete swapping) means full sexual contact (including penetration) with people from outside the couple. It is considered the starting point of the whole concept of swinging: sex involving two couples who swap partners. The idea later expanded, and full swapping is no longer necessarily limited to two couples.
Same room vs separate rooms
Same-room swinging
For some people, the idea of four people in one bed at the same time is one of the reasons they choose this lifestyle. Being able to watch or touch your partner while you have sex with someone else is considered exciting.
On the other hand, some swingers prefer the same room but separate beds. You know your partner is there, you see them, you hear them, but you cannot touch them. And some find that even more exciting.
Separate-room swinging
Preferred by those who feel uncomfortable finishing before the other couple in the room, swinging in separate rooms lets you feel the intimacy of sex as a pair and the pleasure you seek in the swinger lifestyle at the same time. During sex your whole attention is on one person, and afterwards you can relax with the other couple over a glass of wine or in a jacuzzi.
So far we have assumed that the sex happens at the same time. There is also the option of simply having separate dates and sleeping with different people, not necessarily at the same time as your partner. It is an option some couples choose with a very clear agreement, and it requires a lot of trust. At Bad Romance, however, you arrive and leave together.
With singles, with a couple or with several
Swinging with a single
Starting from the idea of a threesome, there are many fantasies that involve a third person in bed. From many men's famous desire to have sex with two women at once to some people's hidden pleasure of watching their partner have sex with someone else (voyeurism), threesomes are common in modern relationships.
Sometimes more people are involved. Any configuration, from three people upwards, only works if every person involved wants it.
Swinging with one couple or several
Partner swapping with another couple. A classic. Remember that this falls under full swap, and that you can choose between the same room and separate rooms.
When several couples are involved, things change a little, because it can be harder to manage and, as anywhere, the more people there are, the harder it is to please everyone. Still, once you have found the group that best matches your expectations and largely shares your desires and fantasies, the experience can be truly remarkable.
Swinger vs voyeur
Swinger
If you have read this far, you already have a fairly clear idea of what a swinger is: someone involved in various sexual activities with people outside the couple. To refine the term, a swinger is a person directly involved in sexual contact with others. The category not included here is that of people involved indirectly: voyeurs.
Voyeur
Voyeurs are people who get sexual satisfaction simply from watching their partner have sex with someone else. Voyeurism is most common in threesomes and is preferred by partners in stable relationships, often married, who have the fantasy of seeing their partner have sex with someone else.
Swinging vs cuckolding
Swinging
Here we look at swinging in terms of the equal involvement of the partners and the say each of them has when the rules of the game are set. Both partners have the same rights and choose together the people they have sex with.
Cuckolding
A practice derived from swinging is cuckolding: a dynamic in which one partner enjoys watching the other with someone else. It only works with the explicit consent of both, and the limits are agreed together, beforehand.
For some couples it is just a fantasy or a role-play, for others a real practice. Either way, either partner can stop the game at any time.
Although society's moral norms consider it wrong, many couples say this lifestyle brings a lot of benefits and satisfaction to their relationship.
Progressive swinging
Besides new sexual experiences, swingers everywhere want to build relationships that give them an approving social environment, comfort and safety.
This gave rise to the concept of progressive swinging, which is in fact a combination of swingers club parties and long-term polyamorous relationships.
This category includes people who, to some extent, develop an emotional bond with their swinging partners and enjoy their company in activities that have nothing to do with the sexual side of clubs or parties.
What suits you?
As we said at the beginning, swinging is a lifestyle with a lot to offer, through both its own practices and those derived from it. It is very important to work out what suits you best, so you can enjoy it to the full. You may not discover on your first visit to a swingers club what attracts you most or how you (and perhaps your partner) get the most satisfaction, but once you have decided to start this lifestyle, you have several good options to try.
